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Would you get embarrassed if you went with both?

IHeartGaming wrote:

sportsdude6 wrote:

Would you get embarrassed if you went with both?

If no, then go with both. 

Well, I wouldn't be embarrassed.....  It's just that neither me nor my best friend like her!  No offense to her.  :l

Ouch! Is there any way for you to gently say something that will make her feel good and make her go away?

tswiftrules wrote:

Appaloosa wrote:

Ouch! Is there any way for you to gently say something that will make her feel good and make her go away?

Hmmmm.... she has another really good friend here!  I don't think she's going trick-or-treating with anybody, maybe they can go together!  The thing is, we never even planned going trick-or-treating together, I don't think.  She just said that we were!  So that might make me feel less guilty, if I know she's going trick-or-treating with SOMEONE!  Do you have any ideas of what I can tell her?  You know, to make her feel good?

You're right, the fact that she's trick-or-treating with her friend definately helps.    I'm a girl, and I'll tell you what I'd want to hear. Not promising that it would work. Us girls are different! It also depends on her age. How old is she??
But what I'd want to hear is the plain honest truth, told in a nice way. Instead of saying, "I don't want to trick-or-treat with you, do it with your friend," say "Hey, (girl's name)! I kind of was hoping to go trick-or-treating with some of my other friends. Boys, that sort of thing. But you know what? (Girl's friend's name) was hoping to go with you this time, and she really would hate to miss out trick-or-treating with you."
Again, this depends on her character and age. AND PLEASE DON'T USE THIS EXACT WORDING IF IT'S NOT ENTIRELY TRUE! She'll feel AWFUL if she ever finds out that you lied, or didn't tell that exact truth. 

tswiftrules wrote:

Appaloosa wrote:

tswiftrules wrote:

Hmmmm.... she has another really good friend here!  I don't think she's going trick-or-treating with anybody, maybe they can go together!  The thing is, we never even planned going trick-or-treating together, I don't think.  She just said that we were!  So that might make me feel less guilty, if I know she's going trick-or-treating with SOMEONE!  Do you have any ideas of what I can tell her?  You know, to make her feel good?

You're right, the fact that she's trick-or-treating with her friend definately helps.    I'm a girl, and I'll tell you what I'd want to hear. Not promising that it would work. Us girls are different! It also depends on her age. How old is she??
But what I'd want to hear is the plain honest truth, told in a nice way. Instead of saying, "I don't want to trick-or-treat with you, do it with your friend," say "Hey, (girl's name)! I kind of was hoping to go trick-or-treating with some of my other friends. Boys, that sort of thing. But you know what? (Girl's friend's name) was hoping to go with you this time, and she really would hate to miss out trick-or-treating with you."
Again, this depends on her character and age. AND PLEASE DON'T USE THIS EXACT WORDING IF IT'S NOT ENTIRELY TRUE! She'll feel AWFUL if she ever finds out that you lied, or didn't tell that exact truth. 

OMG, thank you soooo much, App!  That sounds great!  She's 11.....  so this'll probably work!  Ohhhh..... I just remember that I was doing a matchy costume thing with my best friend!  That'll make it seem a little more nonchalant.  So how about this-- "Hey, (my former friend)!  I totally forgot that I was wearing matching costumes with (my best friend), and I'm not sure if she has an extra one for you to wear.  But I think (former friend's friend) said something about going trick-or-treating with you.  And I think she was planning on NOT going trick-or-treating since nobody was going with her.  I know she'd be soooo happy if you went trick-or-treating together."  Thanks so much, App!  What do you think?   

That sounds like the best plan EVER!    It's kind and yep, she's just a tiny bit younger than me, so it should work!! Good luck!    And you're welcome!

tswiftrules wrote:

Appaloosa wrote:

tswiftrules wrote:

OMG, thank you soooo much, App!  That sounds great!  She's 11.....  so this'll probably work!  Ohhhh..... I just remember that I was doing a matchy costume thing with my best friend!  That'll make it seem a little more nonchalant.  So how about this-- "Hey, (my former friend)!  I totally forgot that I was wearing matching costumes with (my best friend), and I'm not sure if she has an extra one for you to wear.  But I think (former friend's friend) said something about going trick-or-treating with you.  And I think she was planning on NOT going trick-or-treating since nobody was going with her.  I know she'd be soooo happy if you went trick-or-treating together."  Thanks so much, App!  What do you think?   

That sounds like the best plan EVER!    It's kind and yep, she's just a tiny bit younger than me, so it should work!! Good luck!    And you're welcome!

It did work!  Thank you so much!  Best night eva!      Thanks!!