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Blackdog100 wrote:

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

Blackdog100 wrote:

I was bullied for five years.  No one cared, I started self harm, I was lost.  I told so many people T.T then in the last year... I was bullied by our princiapal and another teacher, as well as loads of kids >.<

One of those things you started doing (I don't wanna get another ban for saying it) made the bullying WORSE. It made me 'the psychopathic emo kid'. ;_;
I was bullied straight from Year 2 'til Year 6, a bit in Year 7... and it still happens with the before-mentioned stupid girl... but I can deal with her and her endless whinging now c:

Oh how I hate whingers.

One preppy girl last year complained how her braces hurt and destroyed her "beauty".  Pah    who cares?  I had braces for a year.

Lolol I bet you could wipe off half of her 'beauty' with a freakin' towel if she's anything like the girls in my year ><
Yeah. She acts like her life is the absolute PITS. Oh boy, if she tried living in someone else's shoes for the day I'd love to see how she got on. c;<

RedRocker227 wrote:

The problem was my friends weren't exactly "cool" either. I sometimes used lame insults like "I know you are but what am I?" I know they're rubbish insults, but I couldn't think of anything else to say! XD
Anyway, I'm just glad it's stopped!

None of my friends are 'cool' either, so instead of being self-righteous just try to be sarcastic and insulting. Act like you can be as mean as they are to you. >:3

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

Blackdog100 wrote:

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

One of those things you started doing (I don't wanna get another ban for saying it) made the bullying WORSE. It made me 'the psychopathic emo kid'. ;_;
I was bullied straight from Year 2 'til Year 6, a bit in Year 7... and it still happens with the before-mentioned stupid girl... but I can deal with her and her endless whinging now c:

Oh how I hate whingers.

One preppy girl last year complained how her braces hurt and destroyed her "beauty".  Pah    who cares?  I had braces for a year.

Lolol I bet you could wipe off half of her 'beauty' with a freakin' towel if she's anything like the girls in my year ><
Yeah. She acts like her life is the absolute PITS. Oh boy, if she tried living in someone else's shoes for the day I'd love to see how she got on. c;<

Exactly like her!  They all hated me because I insulted them.  Incompetent anyone?  Because you ain't my friend. XD

Exactly what I said:
"I would appreciate your "friendship" if it were true... Wait, you are too incompetent to understand.  Sad..."

I was called a weirdo.  O.e

cheddargirl wrote:

VanillaCreme wrote:

cheddargirl wrote:

I wouldn't say that's right, from my personal experience whether or not the bullying stops depends largely on intervention to stop it.

If one adult doesn't listen, then find someone who does. The end of one of the articles I gave above in a previous comment I think explains it best: Tell someone about it and keep telling until something is done.

My words EXACTLY cheddargirl . 

I think a lot people forget that things like standing ground, getting buddies, etc. can sometimes work to stop the bullying against you, but doesn't really stop the bullying behavior in general (the bully will often times go picking someone else). Hence why it's still important to tell someone until something is done.

Yeah. ^_^

I just personally think that it's better to tell, say, other people in your class than a teacher. Teachers here are more concerned about the fact that the school can't afford PENCILS than about bullying.
Most teachers give you the same advice, not really helping...
If you tell classmates, they can stand up for you as they'll start to notice that the bully is being cruel. ^^

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

cheddargirl wrote:

VanillaCreme wrote:

My words EXACTLY cheddargirl . 

I think a lot people forget that things like standing ground, getting buddies, etc. can sometimes work to stop the bullying against you, but doesn't really stop the bullying behavior in general (the bully will often times go picking someone else). Hence why it's still important to tell someone until something is done.

Yeah. ^_^

I just personally think that it's better to tell, say, other people in your class than a teacher. Teachers here are more concerned about the fact that the school can't afford PENCILS than about bullying.
Most teachers give you the same advice, not really helping...
If you tell classmates, they can stand up for you as they'll start to notice that the bully is being cruel. ^^

Like I said, most don't care.  One teacher didn't start class in our school because "we needed special pencils."

And some teachers are bullies, so don't worry, they might make it worse...  One girl is trying to bully me.  Sorry girl, but you were the best person to sneer at, with your pitiful attempts to make me feel bad.  She just tries to get everyone in trouble >.>

School is just plain *ed up sometimes.

owetre18 wrote:

^^ TDD's back??[/i]

I suggest demanding that this kid be suspended or some form of punisment.

She's been back for a couple weeks now...

cheddargirl wrote:

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

cheddargirl wrote:

I think a lot people forget that things like standing ground, getting buddies, etc. can sometimes work to stop the bullying against you, but doesn't really stop the bullying behavior in general (the bully will often times go picking someone else). Hence why it's still important to tell someone until something is done.

Yeah. ^_^

I just personally think that it's better to tell, say, other people in your class than a teacher. Teachers here are more concerned about the fact that the school can't afford PENCILS than about bullying.
Most teachers give you the same advice, not really helping...
If you tell classmates, they can stand up for you as they'll start to notice that the bully is being cruel. ^^

Often times it also really depends on the school system. I went to one school where telling the teacher did something about bullying, another school I went to teachers didn't do much until I brought it up with one of my parents who pushed for a change to be done.

Personally, I still think a trusted adult needs to be told about it, particularly because peer intervention doesn't always work and may not target the problem of correcting the bullying behavior entirely (this drawn from personal experience).

My parents always say 'you can tell us anything & we'll sort it' but when I told my mom about 5 years ago she came to school with me and SPOKE to the bully, next day I was 'Mommy's Girl' and all that :L Made it waaaaaaay worse ><

The nasty girl in my class tends to shut up when everyone gangs up on her...

Cheddargirl is right.

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

cheddargirl wrote:

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

Yeah. ^_^

I just personally think that it's better to tell, say, other people in your class than a teacher. Teachers here are more concerned about the fact that the school can't afford PENCILS than about bullying.
Most teachers give you the same advice, not really helping...
If you tell classmates, they can stand up for you as they'll start to notice that the bully is being cruel. ^^

Often times it also really depends on the school system. I went to one school where telling the teacher did something about bullying, another school I went to teachers didn't do much until I brought it up with one of my parents who pushed for a change to be done.

Personally, I still think a trusted adult needs to be told about it, particularly because peer intervention doesn't always work and may not target the problem of correcting the bullying behavior entirely (this drawn from personal experience).

My parents always say 'you can tell us anything & we'll sort it' but when I told my mom about 5 years ago she came to school with me and SPOKE to the bully, next day I was 'Mommy's Girl' and all that :L Made it waaaaaaay worse ><

The nasty girl in my class tends to shut up when everyone gangs up on her...

That happened to me, too, I did get a lot of flack about that, but my mom kept pushing on about it, which finally did something to get the girl to stop. It sure worked a lot better than everyone having to gang up all the time. Again, still better than not telling an adult at all.

cheddargirl wrote:

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

cheddargirl wrote:

Often times it also really depends on the school system. I went to one school where telling the teacher did something about bullying, another school I went to teachers didn't do much until I brought it up with one of my parents who pushed for a change to be done.

Personally, I still think a trusted adult needs to be told about it, particularly because peer intervention doesn't always work and may not target the problem of correcting the bullying behavior entirely (this drawn from personal experience).

My parents always say 'you can tell us anything & we'll sort it' but when I told my mom about 5 years ago she came to school with me and SPOKE to the bully, next day I was 'Mommy's Girl' and all that :L Made it waaaaaaay worse ><

The nasty girl in my class tends to shut up when everyone gangs up on her...

That happened to me, too, I did get a lot of flack about that, but my mom kept pushing on about it, which finally did something to get the girl to stop. It sure worked a lot better than everyone having to gang up all the time. Again, still better than not telling an adult at all.

True... and what I've noticed is that it's always the smarter, less chavvy kids that get picked on here. :c Shame really, specially when the smarter 'nerds' stop trying at school just in order to fit in. :s

I have everything going for me.
I'm like the perfect storm of bully fodder.
Let's see...
I'm fat
I'm a nerd
I'm a loner
I'm bisexual
I'm feminine
I have Aspergers and I act differently from them
I get angry and give them a reaction quicker
I tend not to tell people about school
...You can guess how much I was bullied.

Last edited by Earthboundjeff (2011-12-09 16:40:27)

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

RedRocker227 wrote:

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

True... and what I've noticed is that it's always the smarter, less chavvy kids that get picked on here. :c Shame really, specially when the smarter 'nerds' stop trying at school just in order to fit in. :s

Sort of what I do. I pretend to be dumber than I actually am just so I don't get called a nerd or a dork etc. :c I used to get called that by almost the whole class >.>

I can relate totally. It sounds so shallow but I'd rather dumb myself down or appear to be stupider than I am rather than get picked on. Sad but true for lots of people, I'm sure. :'c

@Jeff: Aww :L No kidding, lots of us here in Misc. have stuff in common...
I have mild bipolar, depression, done stuff I've mentioned before out of pure self-hate, have a weird family set-up, I hate myself for how I look, I'm easy to pick on because I'm generally odd but kind to everyone, and I'm into weird music and stuff...

[/self-pity]

So yeah. We're in this together :')

1. Nobody should hate themselves for how they look, you were just born that way.
2. You're not into weird music, I like almost ALL the bands you like! :D

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

RedRocker227 wrote:

The_Dancing_Donut wrote:

True... and what I've noticed is that it's always the smarter, less chavvy kids that get picked on here. :c Shame really, specially when the smarter 'nerds' stop trying at school just in order to fit in. :s

Sort of what I do. I pretend to be dumber than I actually am just so I don't get called a nerd or a dork etc. :c I used to get called that by almost the whole class >.>

I can relate totally. It sounds so shallow but I'd rather dumb myself down or appear to be stupider than I am rather than get picked on. Sad but true for lots of people, I'm sure. :'c

@Jeff: Aww :L No kidding, lots of us here in Misc. have stuff in common...
I have mild bipolar, depression, done stuff I've mentioned before out of pure self-hate, have a weird family set-up, I hate myself for how I look, I'm easy to pick on because I'm generally odd but kind to everyone, and I'm into weird music and stuff...

[/self-pity]

So yeah. We're in this together :')

I am proud of the fact that I'm a nerd.  If someone starts bullying me for it(even though my state recently passed a really strict bullying law), I'm not going to act dumb.  I promise.


Sometimes, I think you need just you and your buddies to sort out problems.  Adults can't solve everything for you.